Just for the record, caring for a chronically sick wife is not “enabling”. Either you’re perverting a valuable term, or (if you truly believe this) your therapist is damaging your view of the world beyond belief.
Oh, and here’s my answer to your post: https://medium.com/@chazbrenchley/why-ill-never-divorce-my-chronically-sick-wife-b0ddd52367f8
